August 31, 2020
I have a life story. You have a life story. Everyone has a life story to tell. It's important to know that because some people get so caught up in their own stories, they tend to discard other people's feelings and cast their personal histories over the side. Don't do that. We all deserve to be heard. You have the emotional intelligence to tell the person who doesn't appreciate your sound advice to pound sand!
My biggest beef is that when I tell someone my story or favorite event, I listen to someone's story with caring ears and then offer insightful opinions that correlate with their story. That person person looks at me and callously says, "Oh? Well, anyway..."
Oh, anyway? Can there be another careless word by someone to use that demonstrates a total disregard for your own story? It's like telling you, "Who cares!" No one wants to be a party to that kind of selfishness.
People are comfortable with trampling on other people's feelings. But it's okay because, "Hey, I'm only being brutally honest. That's what true friends do." Oh? If that is being a true friend, I hate seeing how you treat somebody they truly hate.
The reality is that, along with every story to be told, everyone has a problem. I would like to resolve my issues without judgment. Can you lend me your ear? I am willing to reciprocate, but I beg you not to cast my feelings aside to serve your ego as having the bigger problem. Both our issues matter. Give me a reassuring tone in your voice and a calm demeanor, and I promise I will assist you in resolving your issues in a caring way. It takes two people to feel important and two-way communication.
These thoughts weigh heavily on my mind, and the stories are anecdotes to cure what ales me, but I need your open mind so you can listen to me, not pretend that you care. It would be fun to lecture you about the current things that are not affecting my way of life, but no one needs a lecture. I prefer sound advice and proper guidance. The great thing about this blog is that I can vent and free my mind from the thought clutter.
Emotions vary in individuals because feelings have been molded over the years and through their life lessons, which place them on a vast spectrum of emotional intelligence. You probably know someone who will text you out of the blue because someone else frustrates them, and you are the one who listened to them in the past and the trustworthy person who used to give sound advice. I would stop doing their free therapy. I can guarantee you that your voice of reason isn't appreciated.
Alas, we are all humans. The ones who claim to be closed off are the ones who spew their emotions to you in private. You aren't obligated to be the listener or a punching bag. You could stop listening altogether. I don't know. I have my own issues going on, anyway. But the lord knows I am not emotionally intelligent, and I will do it again.
***I hope everyone is staying safe. This blog was satire. I wish I had laid it on pretty thick. But on a lighter note, please let's be kind. The world is out of control. Let's get the world spinning correctly on its axis.
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