The Adventures of Captain Imperfecto

You are here: Home » In this Moment Front: Christopher Top: Nico in a photo shoot Nov 2013 April 2, 2014 I'm at a gas pump, pumping gas into my minivan. I became distracted by the wind as it rushed between the cars. The breeze glided across my face as if reaching out to grab my attention. I look beyond the fuel pumps, rapidly climbing numbers as they tick off into the twenty-dollar range and climb toward the 50s. Some major oil company's liquid gold was dumped into my thirsty fuel tank. I follow the breeze's direction and give the area attention from which it came. I have become mesmerized by life; it's so beautiful outside right now. The sky is pale blue with touches of scarring, thin cirrus clouds scattered about the vast celestial sphere. The green trees are highlighted off god's canvas. At this moment, my life is refreshed. I can feel the thump of the bass from the music playing next to me from a car's open window, but I do not mind w...

You are here: Home » Pressing Reset Left to right: Nico, Captain Imperfecto and Christopher in a January 2014 photo shoot March 12, 2014 How do humans preserver? I’m at a point in my life where I’m wondering, “how did I get to this point.” Where’s my reset button? The past two years have gone so fast but yet things still seem the same. I’ve began to move forward putting my kids ahead of my needs but sometimes it’s as if I’m trying to catch up to them. My world is in an ever state of slow motion. My boys are so resilient. The void of their mom is still there. I can’t fill it. And at times they humble me or make me cry when they ask for “mama” or see a woman who resembles their mom and say “mama.” I try to take solace when I find that distressing to me and be grateful, that at four and six years old, they still remember their mom. One of the things that I found out through the past two years is that if you don’t move or try to get over your loss people bec...

You are here: Home » Disney for his Birthday Nico at The Caribbean Walt Disney Resort  March 5, 2014 It was Nico’s sixth birthday and I wanted to throw him a birthday party but I thought that the money I would spend to throw a party could be better spent at something he likes to do, like going to Walt Disney World rather than having a four hour party where other parents “ohh and ahh” their own kids accomplishments. “Look at little Bobby, he can tie his own shoe.”   :He was feeding that lace up his nose earlier” – I’d more than likely think to myself. So I’d rather enjoy Disney. We have annual passes. Those passes use to be so expensive and would require payment in one lump sum. But now Disney World allows the payment to be broken up over twelve months. It’s a lot easier that way for parents on a budget. I try to go for the full experience with the boys so we stay on an onsite resort. I think the experience is more for me. I still haven’t gotten the...

You are here: Home » Goodbye Sleep Left to right: Christopher and Nico rest on our way to a boating island  February 18, 2014 If you are having a child, you've already heard about it. "Say goodbye to sleep." At least, I heard that statement all the time when we were expecting our first child. I didn't understand the big deal about this nonsense of no sleep. Have a kid. The kid sleeps for hours. Take turns with your significant other caring for the baby while the other sleeps. Go to grandparents, pass off kids, and sleep for those available hours. How can that statement ring true? Boy, was I wrong! Bye, sleep, how I miss thee. I miss your sleepy days. I need you to sleep. I now see why teenagers just want to sleep. They're saving their sleep credit so that sleep will be out of their system when they produce kids. The lack of sleep is even worse now that I'm a widowed dad. I just don't get any more Z's that I had after the boys were born. The...