Beyond Our Past Trauma
We enter the world screaming in a traumatic fashion. Too bad that won't be the only moment of shock during our lifetime. It sucks that we are faced with trials and tribulations during our lifetime that is well beyond our shock at birth. Trauma in our daily life and living in a distressing moment is not fun. Still, the overwhelming experience exists and is a reality for most of us. It’s so dang hard to move on from our past trauma.
How do you untangle a mess that has devastated you and controls your life? Sometimes we hear that God won't give us any more than we can handle, or that all things happen for a reason. If you are trying to lessen the blow of the past with those lines, it does not help.
When that tragic event occurs, most of those who are lost in themselves due to a traumatic event finally figure out, clean up, and rebuild. However, many people do not accomplish this because of their exposure to other stressors that complicate matters around them. That's how life is: get busy living, or you will get left behind.
We can remain this figuratively broken-down mess of scrap metal, glass, drywall, and rebar, and stay a big lump of nothing, or we can rebuild, even if it's from the ground up. Giving up is the easy part: putting no effort into reorganizing ourselves and rebuilding anything after whatever tragic events brought us down is simple to do. Blaming others and allowing the hurt and anger to consume us is easier than surviving our mess, facing our fears, and rescuing ourselves from pity.
Still, the human spirit is in us. It drives us, pushes us, tells us to get our shit together and begin to rebuild our life until we are better. But our egos are fragile, making us susceptible to thoughts of failure. We must have a strong back to forgo those feelings and say, "I refuse to continue living like this. It's time to rebuild myself."
And I don't just mean stepping one foot forward after the other and pushing through. No, I am talking about examining this heap of smoldering loss and figuring out, like a jigsaw, how to put it back together piece by piece, rebuilding yourself, because change must become a lifestyle. Your desire to change is a rebirth; leaving it in the past will never be easy. But if you do not rebuild, then you're just painting over your anxiety and depression with a fake smile.
If you do not view it this way then you will repeatedly fall into that damn trauma which keeps you weak minded. Your past trauma will fester in your mind as doubt. You will never see a sunset that brings you wonderment, a majestic mountain top, an ocean so big that it makes you dream, or a cuddly animal's purity bringing you joy.
Stop being at war with yourself. Not everything will be resolved. Learn to cope and understand that you may never heal the wounds of the past. Encouragement isn't enough, but tough talk may solve what ails you.
We can be brittle, and that is okay. Vulnerability is not necessarily a bad thing. You are defined by how you handled your trauma. Do not be a victim; fight and win the battle it brings you. Rebuild with strength and never look back. You won't forget the trauma of your past. However, you can move beyond it and be everything you knew you would be. Admire what you have become when you rise above the rubble of your past. Move past your trauma. Be defined in that way.
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