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Christopher Jr. and Nico celebrating Nico's birthday at Chili's. March 12, 2022


February 28, 2022

Spreading my love to 4 of my children may seem daunting to some people because kids are so demanding. I have always been told that a parent "always favors one child over the other" before I had my own children. Being the youngest of 4 kids myself, it sure felt that way at times. My 4 boys have their personalities, and I'm in love with each one of them. I can tell you they are truly loved unconditionally.

I'm always consoling one of my children in some way. Whether it's hugging, kissing, or caressing a face, the need for my love never ends. And the return of their love is so pure and innocent that I can't help but turn on the parental protection that ensures their safety.

Sure, there are times one child needs more love than the other, but supplying my love more to one doesn't drain me of my affection for another because my boys make it so damn easy to love them all consistently.

I love my father. It is enduring and endless. I didn't think I could love another man as much as him. I'm an emotional person. I am not ashamed to show my affection. I value life more than material things. This is the person I have become, who transformed through maturity. When I became a dad of my first son, it never dawned on me that I would have 3 more boys. Back in 2006, I lost twin daughters on the day of their birth. I always felt that God would allow me to be the father of a little girl at some point. But for some reason, that wasn't in the cards for my life. There's a hint of regret for that, but I'm grateful for my children, and the love that has grown for those boys is as strong, if not stronger, than my love for my father. My dad would agree.

I know I'm home when I look into my kid's eyes and watch their smiles gleam. Sometimes, I want to freak out on them while raising them. Children get into all sorts of mischief, like when they turn on the water hose, muddy the ground, and roll into it in their clothes. Then, without warning 2, they walk into the house, slosh water all over the floor, put their muddy handprints on the walls, and discard their wet clothes on the floor! Okay, I digress. I freaked out a little on them regarding that muddy path. It was destructive and just messy. But after I gained my composure. I couldn't help but laugh at what happened. Love fills the heart back quickly and recedes all anger.

Being their father, I want to ensure I cover all my bases. It's like spreading out peanut butter and jelly on bread. I ensure the peanut butter and jelly go all the way to the edges, ensuring nothing is spared. That perfect sandwich is a metaphor for how my love is spread until the end of time.

I'm grateful for the 4 boys I have. They challenge me every day. I work and provide for them daily. I hope they understand that and know I will always love them evenly because I know how to spread my love unconditionally.


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Blake and Max waiting to go in Miami! March 18, 2022.









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